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Five tips to improve public speaking

One of the common mistakes in public speaking is that we often underestimate the importance of the form in the message we try to convey.

Unlike written pages, oral communications are a bloom of conscious and unconscious signals coming out from our body, like voice tone and modulation, gesticulating, glances with the public, dialogue speed and so on.

Each of these signals carries a different value that can alter the substance of the message, even in an unsuccessful way.

As diplomacy is essentially communication, a good deal can be reached only after smart negotiations and persuasive talks.

Hence, creating the right empathy with our listeners could add further value on the outcome of our agreements.

In an article published on the popular magazine Mental Floss, the American journalist Cindy Fisher Crawford has tried to summarize 5 effective steps to becoming a better public speaker from “Toastmasters International” and other public speaking experts:

1. MAKE YOUR SPEECH CONVERSATIONAL

As tempting as it may be to type up a speech and read it word for word, refrain from doing so.

Audiences listen better when the speaker talks to them instead of reads to them.

2. PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE

A great way to ensure your speech goes smoothly is to rehearse what you’re going to say.

3. CONNECT WITH YOUR AUDIENCE

If they’re yawning, you need to infuse a spark in the conversation.

4. DELIVER YOUR SPEECH WITH PASSION

The best way to get your audience to care about what you’re saying is to show how much you care about the topic.

5. TAKE YOUR TIME

Your presentation is not a race. Take your time as you interact with the audience and slow down if you make a mistake.

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Be resilient

We often have to deal with changes, trasformation and adversities both in our daily life and in our career. That is why the concept of resilience – broadly defined as the ability to recover from setbacks, adapt to change, and keep going despite adversities – offers significant suggestions with regard to our behaviour. The importance of being resilient is clearly highlighted in this article which examines some elements essential to resilience.

Here are some significant tips to follow:

  • be always able to cope with change, stress and adversity;
  • consider both setbacks and successes as positive learning experiences;
  • view difficulties and challenges as opportunities to grow and evolve;
  • be able to adapt – and partially adjust – yourself but be ready, at the same time, to return to your original status;
  • be able to absorb energy when “elastically deformed” and later release and use that energy;
  • be able to absorb or avoid damage, without suffering complete failure;
  • be able to provide and maintain an acceptable level of service in the face of problems and challenges to normal operation.

Resilience

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Leading with Humility

Leaders are often described as powerful and headstrong individuals, certain of their position and willing to do whatever it takes to achieve their goals or ambitions.

Recent researches have advanced  a new model for understanding and improving effective leadership: leading with humility. Scientific inquiry has shown that humility offers a significant “competitive advantage” to leaders.

Humble leaders consider their own strengths, weakness and motives in making decisions; demonstrating concern for the common good, and exercising their influence for the benefit of all.

Managers who exhibit traits of humility resulted in better employee engagement and job performance.

In this article, Gwen Moran explains how to use humility to be more effective in the following 6 ways:

1) Be open to others’ opinions;
2) Tend to others’ needs;
3) Admit mistakes;
4) Accept ambiguity;
5) Self – reflect;
6) Let people do their jobs.
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3 Techniques for Setting Priorities Effectively

It is easy, in the onrush of life, to become a reactor: to respond to everything that comes up, the moment it comes up, and give it your undivided attention until the next thing comes up. This is, of course, a recipe for madness.

Having an inbox and processing it in a systematic way can help you gain back some of that control. But once you’ve processed out your inbox and listed all the tasks you need to get cracking on, you still have to figure out what to do the very next instant. This is why setting priorities is so important.

This article explains the three basic approaches to setting priorities, each of which suits different kinds of personalities. The first is for procrastinators, people who put off unpleasant tasks. The second is for people who thrive on accomplishment, who need a stream of small victories to get through the day. And the third is for the more analytic types, who need to know that they’re working on the objectively most important thing possible at this moment.

  1. Eat a Frog

There’s an old saying to the effect that if you wake up in the morning and eat a live frog, you can go through the day knowing that the worst thing that can possibly happen to you that day has already passed. In other words, the day can only get better.

The idea here is that you tackle the biggest, hardest, and least appealing task first thing every day, so you can move through the rest of the day knowing that the worst has already passed.

  1. Move Big Rocks

Maybe you are not a procrastinator so much as a fiddler, someone who fills her or his time fussing over little tasks. You are busy busy busy all the time, but somehow, nothing important ever seems to get done.

You can fill the time you have in a day up with meaningless little busy-work tasks, leaving no room for the big stuff, or you can do the big stuff first, then the smaller stuff, and finally fill in the spare moments with the useless stuff. To put it into practice, sit down tonight before you go to bed and write down the three most important tasks you have to get done tomorrow.

In the morning, take out your list and attack the first “Big Rock”. Work on it until it’s done or you can’t make any further progress. Then move on to the second, and then the third. Once you’ve finished them all, you can start in with the little stuff, knowing you’ve made good progress on all the big stuff.

  1. Covey Quadrants

If you just cannot relax unless you absolutely know you are working on the most important thing you could be working on at every instant, Stephen Covey’s quadrant system might be for you.

Covey suggests you divide a piece of paper into four sections, drawing a line across and a line from top to bottom. Into each of those quadrants, you put your tasks according to whether they are:

I.Important and Urgent

II.Important and Not Urgent

III.Not Important but Urgent

IV.Not Important and Not Urgent

The quadrant III and IV stuff is where we get bogged down in the trivial. Although some of this stuff might have some social value, if it interferes with your ability to do the things that are important to you, they need to go.

Quadrant I and II are the tasks that are important to us. If you are really on top of your time management, you can minimize Q1 tasks, but you can never eliminate them: these things all demand immediate action and are rarely planned for.

You would like to spend as much time as possible in Quadrant II, plugging away at tasks that are important with plenty of time to really get into them and do the best possible job. This is the stuff that the QIII and QIV stuff takes time away from, so after you’ve plotted out your tasks on the Covey quadrant grid, according to your own sense of what’s important and what isn’t, work as much as possible on items in Quadrant II (and Quadrant I tasks when they arise).

Resilience and Diplomacy

In his TEDx talk titled “Why diplomats will never disappear” (TEDxBari 2015Stefano Baldi, career diplomat, explains why diplomats maintain an important role even after many changes that have affected International relations.

Despite some “Cassandras” that have in the past foreseen the end of Diplomacy, the activities performed by diplomats continue to be particularly relevant. Diplomats have always shown a great adaptability to new tools and to changing conditions.

Stefano Baldi at TEDxBari – Why diplomats will never disappear from Stefano Baldi on Vimeo.

 

How empathy shapes outcomes of diplomatic negotiations

Why do some peace summits succeed while other fails? In this work of Marcus Holmes and Keren Yahri-Milo, the authors highlight the importance of empathy between leaders. In fact, they first demonstrate that numerous findings suggest that empathy—the ability to understand the cognitive and affective states of others without necessarily sympathizing with them—is required for overcoming long-standing hostilities.

In this regard, they significantly report the words of the UN Secretary General Dag Hammarskjold: “you can only hope to find a lasting solution to a conflict if you have learned to see the other objectively, but, at the same time, to experience his difficulties subjectively”.

Hence, demonstrating empathy to your adversary is not a signal of weakness or vulnerability but a demonstration that you are negotiating in good-faith.

You can read more about this issue here

 

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Count your blessings and happiness will come

If you’re happy and you know it… you also know how to count your blessings. Noticing what you have – and learning to appreciate it – is the first step towards being happy, says Stefano Baldi, the Italian Ambassador to Bulgaria, in this TED talk.

And luckily, you don’t HAVE to have Italian food or clothes to be happy. Though it certainly won’t hurt.

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Politics, when it is an art and a service, not an exploitation, is about acting for an ideal through realities. Charles de Gaulle

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The art of negotiating

In this article published by The Telegraph, Rebecca Burn-Callander gathers nine tips for negotiation.

Negotiation in an art, hard to learn and even harder to master. It is something we need in our everyday life, in our jobs as much as in our private life.

Here nine useful advices to be a good negotiator:

  1. Don’t talk too much
  2. If that fails, try talking too much
  3. Force a “no” out of your opponent
  4. Know your stuff
  5. Try to use open-ended questions
  6. Fix an end for negotiations to end
  7. Fake empathy
  8. Don’t try to lie your way into a deal
  9. Volunteer for the Samaritans

You can learn more about each advice by reading the full article.

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