I really appreciate this contribution. Your entry has confirmed some doubts I had on some behaviours I observed in some of my superiors. Especially in those actions in which anybody SHOULD NOT take example. However, I’m talking of another place in which I stayed, and, thanks God, I’m not working anymore 😉
I’d like to add something about the #4: Being Too Friendly. Something that may produce very dangerous outputs.
In Italy, especially, friendship ties fostered between leaders and their staff does tend to get a bit too delicate sometimes: there are moments in which other subordinates cannot refrain to underline how unfair the professional relations become in the everyday team routine. This become especially visible when two groups emerge.
The first group is the one geographically or/and ‘affectionately’ (of course I’m stressing this idea on purpose) placed near the ‘establishment’ (e.g: their desks) and the another one is … the rest of the team, which suddenly reacts to the arising ties of the first group before their leaders – and, to get things worse, by the unequal treatment set to their leaders about ‘professional injusticeness’ and ‘non-transparency’ especially when the first group (which may even become the leaders’ favourites – and some of these clear behaviours of tightening friendships doesn’t do any good when they are happening in front of the team!) comes to have a growing specific-weight in the leaders eyes.
I became aware the situation was really compromised only when an apparently calm lunch-chat, along with one of our chiefs, turned out to be an unfair ‘j’accuse’, an undesirable trial where the guilty wasn’t at the stake either, an act which pubblicly discredited one of our colleague, and where everyone at the table emphasized in subjection the faults of our equal, without too much self respect!
I guess you can realize the epilogue: the group shatters, cease to be a team, the communication quality is killed, and the few, isolated subjects who promoted a joyful, ‘camaraderous’ approach to work, are left alone, vanquished by the ever-growing dissatisfaction.
…The more I think to this, the more I feel to urge to UNDERLINE to all the leaders who reads our needs to be trated equally: we want to love our job, so, be strong and help us to reach your objectives!
I really appreciate this contribution. Your entry has confirmed some doubts I had on some behaviours I observed in some of my superiors. Especially in those actions in which anybody SHOULD NOT take example. However, I’m talking of another place in which I stayed, and, thanks God, I’m not working anymore 😉
I’d like to add something about the #4: Being Too Friendly. Something that may produce very dangerous outputs.
In Italy, especially, friendship ties fostered between leaders and their staff does tend to get a bit too delicate sometimes: there are moments in which other subordinates cannot refrain to underline how unfair the professional relations become in the everyday team routine. This become especially visible when two groups emerge.
The first group is the one geographically or/and ‘affectionately’ (of course I’m stressing this idea on purpose) placed near the ‘establishment’ (e.g: their desks) and the another one is … the rest of the team, which suddenly reacts to the arising ties of the first group before their leaders – and, to get things worse, by the unequal treatment set to their leaders about ‘professional injusticeness’ and ‘non-transparency’ especially when the first group (which may even become the leaders’ favourites – and some of these clear behaviours of tightening friendships doesn’t do any good when they are happening in front of the team!) comes to have a growing specific-weight in the leaders eyes.
I became aware the situation was really compromised only when an apparently calm lunch-chat, along with one of our chiefs, turned out to be an unfair ‘j’accuse’, an undesirable trial where the guilty wasn’t at the stake either, an act which pubblicly discredited one of our colleague, and where everyone at the table emphasized in subjection the faults of our equal, without too much self respect!
I guess you can realize the epilogue: the group shatters, cease to be a team, the communication quality is killed, and the few, isolated subjects who promoted a joyful, ‘camaraderous’ approach to work, are left alone, vanquished by the ever-growing dissatisfaction.
…The more I think to this, the more I feel to urge to UNDERLINE to all the leaders who reads our needs to be trated equally: we want to love our job, so, be strong and help us to reach your objectives!